Never been on vacation before… Afraid of flying…. Should I even go?
Posted: August 29th, 2011 | Author: admin | Filed under: Travel For Disabled | Tags: Afraid, been, before, even, Flying, Never, Should, vacation | 5 Comments »I am a 31 yr old female that currently lives with her disabled mother and her elderly grandmother. I help care for them both. This may sound pathetic but I’ve never spend a night away from home since age 9. I have this anxiety that something will happen.
My cousin who lives in San Fran recently invite me out to visit since I have this Fri-Mon off. The plane ticket is $423. but he is willing to pay for the hotel. I’ve never been on a plane before and the thought of going terrifies me. I’m afraid something will happen. I’ve always wanted to go to California so part of me does want to go. If I do go, I need to go this week. I am picking up another job to help the family finances which aren’t great. My grandmother recently got a notice from the tax collector saying her property was considered for tax sale if she didn’t pay. We put something on it but need to make an effort to pay something off monthy. If I go, I would put this trip on my credit card.
Should I GO?
For the afraid of flying part, you need to know one thing:
Flying via air plane is safer than driving with a car. It’s safe, and nothing will happen.
PLANES ALWAYS CRASH…. THE CHANCES OF YOU DYING IN A PLANE CRASH IS…. 80% if u land in the water…. 100% if u hit a building…. and 300% if u hit a nuclear waste plant….chances are…. if its ur first flight, YOU ARE GOING TO Crash…. cuz thats what life is doing…. just to spite you… TEEHEE hope that help….You should go on that vacation btw…. its usually really fun.
Go ahead and take the trip! Have your first flying experience, I have flown many times and NOTHING has gone wrong! This could be a good opportunity to take a break and try to get over this anxiety you have of something happening while you are away. if you are really that worried about your mother and grandmother, ask a friend or somebody to check in on them once a day to make sure everything is ok.
I am sure you will all be fine!
It’s past time that you did something for you. It’s great that you’re so dedicated to your family, but at some point you have to separate yourself from THEIR problems.
You deserve a vacation, and you deserve a life of your own. Travel will always seem scary until you actually face your fears and DO it. Then you’ll realize you are more capable than you than ever knew, and that travel can be fun and enlightening.
If something happens while you’re gone – well, it probably would have happened anyway. Don’t guilt yourself. Your mother and grandmother may be disabled, but they are not helpless. They need to learn to take care of themselves for a few days, or at least to be able to shift their dependence to another caregiver (a neighbor or friend). You have given them so much of your time and energy and dedication; the least that they can give to you is a little freedom now and then, without guilt.
Financially, I don’t generally recommend spending money you don’t have, but I think in this case, for a one-time treat, it’s okay. Go and enjoy.
You definitely deserve the vacation!! If your main hesitation is a fear of flying, there are plenty of ways to make yourself more comfortable on an airplane. Check out this article that gives a few easy tips to ease your anxiety of flying:
http://www.studyabroaddomain.com/cure-your-flying-phobia.aspx
I used to be terrified of flying and now I fly 12-16 times a year and have no anxiety. Another idea is to sit near business professionals. Businessmen are generally the least fussy passengers since it is likely they fly frequently. It will help ease your fears when you see another passenger who treats flying like nothing out of the ordinary. Once you can move past your fear of flying make sure you enjoy your vacation! San Francisco is a beautiful city! I’ve had wonderful experiences each time I go.