My spouse’s friends are visiting and I hate them.. how can I deal with this?
Posted: October 24th, 2011 | Author: admin | Filed under: Travel For Disabled | Tags: deal, Friends, hate, spouse's, them...., this, visiting | 7 Comments »Help! How do I get needy house guest to understand I am not thier cruise director?
I posted a question yesterday, and I got lots of answers, nothing of any use.
My spouse’s friend and girlfriend are here visiting from the UK. Specificallly London. THey are staying for 2.5 weeks and are currently staying in our spare bedroom. HELP! They can’t even take care of themselves and are expecting us to cart them around… Just last weekend we took them to lets say AZ for the weekend, not yesterday they are askign if I can drive them to Cabo San Lucas.. I kid you not. I absolutely said no to the latter.
This couple are 30ish male and 20ish female and all they want to do is drink drink drink.. I came home from work last night ot find them in the hot tub drinking again…. !!
I am forced to work. My spouse is disabled. I have no vacation time and I am forced to be here at the office 8-5 and when I get home..it’s “lets go for dinner and drinks!”
How can I set these 2 up to get out on thier own and not expect me to be the Cruise director?
Hey I answered your question yesterday so thanks for the not of any use line. I don’t know what else to say other than put your foot down and tell them that you are not their cruise directer. I know that falls under the category of no use but really what else do you expect us to say?
put sardine cans under their bed, etc etc.. make them want to stay in a hotel
tell them the truth. tell them that they are welcome (somewhat) to stay but that since you have to work, you will not be able to entertain them. tell them they are welcome to do what they please to enjoy their vacation and, maybe, make plans for one night out with them and your husband, but then, work, come home, go about your business….even “work late” some nights…. they will go home eventually.
I had another answer for you but since this is your set-up – just tell them politely that you have work that needs attending to. The only time you can even do anything for them is on weekends. If the only thing they can do for themselves is get drunk, then I would suggest you find a cheap motel for them to move into because even if they were your spouse’s friends, I’d tell my spouse he/she can move in with them disabled or not. Sorry if it sounds heartless but impolite house guests are a no-no to me.
Ouch! You are “enabling” them and letting them take advantage of you. Have you talked with your spouse about how you feel? That is the first thing you should do, and second tell him it is up to him to entertain his guests. Let him bear the burden. Make plans of your own to keep busy. Or you can tell them you need to cut their trip short.
Tell them you are not on vacation, and as far as you are concerned it is back to business as usual, but they are free to figure out and do what ever it is they please.
TELL THEM. You don’t need to be mean about…just factual. It’s okay to be honest without working yourself UP about it. Give them a mental break… this IS their vacation…. and it’s BIG to them. Just tell them your situation. It’s okay to be less than perfect, really it IS!!!!!