My mom is semi disabled. I live out of town and my brother wont help me care for her.. Does this seam fair 2 U?
Posted: August 5th, 2011 | Author: admin | Filed under: Travel For Disabled | Tags: brother, care, disabled, fair, Help, her.., live, seam, semi, this, Town, wont | 5 Comments »My mom lives alone and needs help with certain things, and recently had surgery, so she is limited on what she can & can’t do. So, I have been running her errands, cleaning her house, etc.. While doing all these things for my own home as well… I work in the town where she lives, but I don’t live there..I live about 45 minutes away. My brother lives about 25 minutes further out. He has come see our mom twice( in one month ) Last week he was on vacation and didn’t tell my mom, he didn’t even tell his ex wife that he was on vacation because he was afraid that she would ask him to keep their child for more time than he wants to. I asked him to come see our mom on one of those days, but he told me not to make his plans for him. I want to ask him to come help and take turns doing things with and for her.. Don’t get me wrong, I love my mom and we are close, but running two house holds has taken it’s toll and I would like at least one day of reprieve.
Am I asking to much for him to come and help? He acts like his time is too precious.. Yet, get this … He made it a point to call her when he got news that she was making a will and argued that he is ENTITLED to half of everything she leaves behind, and that I better not count on getting her home. That is the LAST thing on my mind right now.. My husband and I already own a home. I don’t think of her items in that way. yet I don’t think he deserves them either, but this is not what I wanted to talk about directly. How can he be so selfish? And self absorbed
There is NO “fair”- outside of those Things we make so. Therefore, the correct Answer to your Question is, “Yes.” If You want Help for your Mother, It’s YOU who must provide it. That’s YOUR Choice- just as your Brother has made His…
i dont think youre asking too much of him, you shouldnt even have to ask, its only fair that he helps his mom also, he sounds very selfish. pray that the Lord changes his heart.
No. Because i know god is going to use that for somthing for you later in life.
I feel for you. I have a very elderly aunt who has no children, no other family and is on totally on her own – and very frail/housebound. My oldest sister doesn’t work (husband keeps her) & lives close to my aunt – yet she leaves me and my brother (we both work full time ) to do everything for my aunt – shop, shower, medical visits you name it, we arrange it and do it. A few months ago my aunt fell over and ended up in hospital – for three months – my sister visited her a grand total of 2 times, whilst me and my brother came home from work EVERY night said a quick hi to our families, met up and visited the hospital together. To top it off my eldest sister (and her lawyer) tried to get my aunt change her will. Yet she still never, never lifts a finger to be of assistance in any way at all. I cannot believe how selfish and greedy some people are in this world. My brother and I help our aunt cause we love her, but week in week out – it is so exhausting doing all we have to do for her plus live our own lives. I know how stressful it must be for you. Just gotta hope good things happen to good people in the end……
It has nothing to do with fair. By age 18 most people should know nothing in life is fair. If she needs that much help it is time to move her in with you. Nothing you say or do is going to get him to do what you want.