Children???
Posted: December 8th, 2011 | Author: admin | Filed under: Travel For Disabled | Tags: Children | 9 Comments »My husband is verbally abusive to my daughter and I. He has grabbed my daughter’s (17 years old) ankles and pulled her our of bed and hit walls. We have been married 13 years and over the years he has denied to get counseling or has just laughed it off. Finally I have decided to leave him, but not get a divorce if he seeks help for his anger. My children and I were on vacation in Alabama seeing family. I would go out with some girl friends from highschool. My parents believe I was having an affair, but I wasn’t. My husband called my my parents and threatned to take away my other daughter who is 9 and handicapped. Can he really take her away from me and what other things could he do? If you have any support numbers for women in my position please let me know. All information is valued.
You need to document the abuse if you want to have any hope of winning a court case. Courts require proof of allegations. There are tons of organizations for abused families.
no he cant take her from you like that…he is just being verbal again…you have done the right thing…
if he gets help and changes his attitude then all well and good…but i cant see this happening…sorry.
i wouldnt go back to him either after all this.
take care.x
Men ALWAYS like to threaten taking the kids from you.
The fact of the matter is, the courts always favor the mother…even drug addict neglectful mothers keep their kids…give me a break……..let him threaten all he wants- its just empty threats anyway.
You freaken idiot run as fast as you can from this monster he is hurting your children!!!! Go to a lawyer and start the divorce, NOW!!!!!!
1-800-799-SAFE (7233) the domestic violence hotline.
If you are the primary care giver for your daughter it is unlikely you would lose custody of her unless he can somehow prove you are unfit. Get a good lawyer.
courts really hesitate to take children away from thier mothers. men who threaten this use this to try and trap women, but he would have to prove you unfit to take her, and that isnt likely to happen unless you are really doing something bad. dont let that trap you. if there is a rape crisis line where you are start by calling them. they may have numbers to women’s groups than can help better.
Oh goodness I am sorry to hear about your situation! It seems you are doing the right thing separating from him. You don’t want to subject you and your children to that kind of behavior. If your husband is serious about staying and changing then he will seek help. If he doesn’t then you are in a whole different situation. I know you may not believe in divorce, or want one (who really does?) but you can’t go on letting him do awful things to you and your children.
With your parents thinking you had an affair I would just talk to them about it. Tell them that you were absolutely NOT having an affair! And if they continue to think so, oh well. You must be an adult to have a 17 year old daughter….so even thought their opinion is still very valued, you can’t let them break you down that way.
As far as taking the children, I don’t think he can. You are their mother and as far as I know you haven’t done them any wrong….no abuse, abandonment or so on….you can call an attorney and see what they say. They will often give you the answers you are looking for. They will be able to tell you what exactly he is legally allowed to do with the children. I hope that you keep you and your children safe. Good luck.
In order for your husband to take your daughter away he would have to prove you unfit. Please call a support number in the area in which you live. This man is extremely dangerous….I don’t condone abuse EVER. He is not only being verbally abusive towards your 17 year old daughter…but he is also physically abusive. Do not give him the opportunity to get help…in order to avoid divorce…..if he were really wanting help he wouldn’t just laugh it off…get out…call a lawyer…before he kills you and/or your daughters.
Well, as far as taking your children away from you, the law is supposed to be non-discriminatory. That is, it’s no more “taking away” your children by him than it is you taking away his children. Understand.
All it is is a “best interest of the child” analysis. If a court determines, in a custody dispute, that it is in the best interest of the child that they stay with him, then they do. Although custody rules are still enforced unequally, and fathers are unfairly determined to be the non-custodial parent disproportionately, the children are technically just as much his as they are yours.