Are you disabled, and your spouse resents it that you no longer work and don’t bring in any money?
Posted: August 17th, 2011 | Author: admin | Filed under: Travel For Disabled | Tags: Bring, disabled, Don't, longer, Money, resents, spouse, work | 3 Comments »I’ve had Lupus for 8 years, and it has really taken its toll on both of us. Our relationship is falling to pieces due, in large part, to financial issues.
This once kind, terrific man, has turned into this angry, cold and mean monster. He actually thinks I’m lucky to be “on vacation all day, every day”. Trust me, Lupus is no day at the beach.
I understand that I am no longer the healthy and capable partner he signed on for. But ya know what – neither is he. We are not married, but have been together 11+ years. He holds all the money, and therefore all the cards. He believes he does not “need” to be nice to me, and that I have to take his negative bullying since financially, I am completely dependent on him.
He is not violent and has never hit me. He is not aware that he is abusing me verbally.
My mom has had MS since I was a little girl, and my Dad eventually stopped being nice to her too. I don’t want to repeat that pattern. Help! Anyone else have this problem?
No, My husband tells everyone that he loves his handicapped chick. I have been ill for about 8 years more than half of our marriage. He is my caregiver and he takes it very seriously. He loves me unconditionally. He is very caring and understanding.
No, but it sounds like this relationship isn’t going to last if he has so much resentment towards you. Thing is, even though you’ve been together for 11 years, it’s not written down anywhere that he has to support you forever. Unfair as it may seem, it’s obvious to me that he wants out.
Sorry to hear. My wife has epilepsy, so it basically limits any kind of job she can take. Pretty much, we realized it’s just better for me to work because she can’t have a serious job. We do without a lot, and I put in a lot of hours, but I don’t mind it because I actually like my jobs (I’m in education). Perhaps if you downsized, your husband can find more work satisfaction and thereby be happier. For example, we live in a small apartment, and the car is 11 years old.