Family problems leaving me sad. Will report trolls and flamers.?
Posted: July 9th, 2011 | Author: admin | Filed under: Transportation | Tags: family, flamers., leaving, problems, report, sad., trolls | 2 Comments »I’m a 13 year old teenager who gets good grades, always B’s and above. I live in a wealthier suburb, and have recently been having issues with my family.
I have two sisters, but the subject is mostly about one. We’ll call them Jen and Beth. Jen is age 27, and Beth is age 29. I’m 13. Jen is handicapped and living with me and my parents, while Beth is living a life on her own with her own house and job etc.
My father has had a lawsuit that we won’t get into, but anyways it has left me not being allowed to see any of my extended family on my dad’s side. This means aunts, uncles, cousins and my grandmother. Due to this we have been in court for many years, at least 6.
Due to the cost of these lawsuits, our family has been down in money, on top of the already declining economy. My mother’s car was getting old, breaking and was in need of a new one. My dad had earlier bought cars of my sisters, and had to sell one to buy a new van. Now, my sister Jen who is handicapped has been left without her own source of transportation. She is slowly getting better, but still can’t walk. She can drive however. Jen has always seemed a little spoiled to me, and had always gotten her way. Now that our family is down in funds, she cannot. This is causing her to cry when my father denies her to do her own thing, such as go to McDonalds while we are all at Burgerking. She get extremely upset and starts to cry, and saying how he shouldn’t have taken away her car and stuff. She tells him he made a promise he can’t keep, and isn’t a good person. I think my father is doing all he is capable of, and she should be grateful. However she keeps throwing things in his face how he doesn’t talk with his mother anymore and that she wants to get out of the house. She claims she is a prisoner here, and that she can’t do what she wants. She said she should never have came here (from what I understand, my dad yelled at her to come back home after her injury, even though she didn’t want to) and wants to leave. My father usually just sits there taking it all, and then takes out his anger with all these issues later on. He will get upset with me then about small things. This leaves me feeling very hopeless about the whole situation, often times depressed and with suicidal thoughts. Please help.
I only think, never try. I seriously doubt I ever will try too. And my parents are muslim, however I think that whole religion sounds ridiculous, but that’s only me. I prefer to think of my self as a naturalist and atheist, with only the START having supernatural interference.
I get yelled at by my mom all the time for no reason at all, and everything seems unfair in my life. Please, please, please don’t EVER think of killing yourself. You have so much left for you that you don’t wanna miss out on. God’s always there for anyone who needs him.
If you need any help at all ask him.
Don’t threaten people. If you aren’t adult enough to post a question and screen through the answers, ignoring ones you don’t like, then don’t post.
Your financial status, religion, and grades don’t add anything to this post.
Don’t use the term “we”…you have not been in court and you live in your parents house…this is believable considering you are a 13 yr old child. I’m sorry you haven’t been able to see your family on your dad’s side..but that has to do with them and their decisions and it’s something you can’t do anything about.
Being disabled isn’t fun or easy…cut your sister some slack. I’m glad your parents are forward-thinking enough to provide her with transportation and to make sure she was trained to drive on her own. That can be very costly and difficult. When you’re disabled, being able to drive or to get out is essential and a freedom you may have (and those around you) previously taken for granted.
YOu aren’t specific about your sister’s disability so I can’t answer you on why she acts the way she does. It’s possible she can’t help it or has been raised in a way that allowed her to think it was ok to behave that way. She may not understand things like you do…and you have to be aware of that and sympathize. She may not be able to understand gratitude.
Since you say she cannot walk, I can well understand her feeling of being trapped. She’s already tasted the freedom of being able to drive and do things…now they’re coming to a stop and she may not understand why, etc. I know what it’s like to be a prisoner in your body and be stuck at home and it’s more than some can deal with. Your parents will handle this, just like they always have.
It doesn’t mean your father should take it out on everyone else. You parents are going through things that you don’t understand and many you likely don’t know about. The best you can do is to continue to communicate with your family, especially your parents…be helpful and talk to a counselor about this.
The internet isn’t a place for medical diagnosis or counseling.