Are you disabled, and your spouse resents it that you no longer work and don’t bring in any money?

I’ve had Lupus for 8 years, and it has really taken its toll on both of us. Our relationship is falling to pieces due, in large part, to financial issues.

This once kind, terrific man, has turned into this angry, cold and mean monster. He actually thinks I’m lucky to be “on vacation all day, every day”. Trust me, Lupus is no day at the beach.

I understand that I am no longer the healthy and capable partner he signed on for. But ya know what – neither is he. We are not married, but have been together 11+ years. He holds all the money, and therefore all the cards. He believes he does not “need” to be nice to me, and that I have to take his negative bullying since financially, I am completely dependent on him.

He is not violent and has never hit me. He is not aware that he is abusing me verbally.

My mom has had MS since I was a little girl, and my Dad eventually stopped being nice to her too. I don’t want to repeat that pattern. Help! Anyone else have this problem?

My boyfriend and I are both disabled and on SSDI (and I’m on SSI). Do we have to hide anything over $2000?

I’m trying to save up for next year’s trip to Orlando for the National Federation of the Blind’s national convention and for a stay at Disney. I’m not using the SSDI or SSI for the trip, so please don’t rant about tax dollars going to people’s vacations. My ex-husband sends me $300 a month as spousal support (we are not divorced yet), and I save $200 of that each month when I can. My boyfriend is doing the same from his SSDI (which he earned from his many years of working). The trip is going to cost about $3,000 plus food, transportation, and souvenirs.

Here’s the thing. I need to save all the money in my savings account until the package is booked in January or February. By January, I expect to have $2,000 minimum between myself and my boyfriend (who is putting his in my savings account, as he does not have one of his own). If we have more than $2,000 in savings, do I need to put the rest in a safe or something so Social Security doesn’t use it as a reason to lower my SSDI and SSI (I currently only get $690 combined). I am living very frugally in order to save for this trip, so I think it is well deserved, especially for the national convention of the NFB.

If the >$2000 is going to be there only for a short time, do I still have to hide it in order for Social Security to not use it against me, or do they only check your bank account when you provide the information at re-cert time?

Advice, please? And please don’t say that I shouldn’t go on this trip or that if I can save up the $3,000 for this trip that I can afford for my SSDI and SSI to go down. I am living extremely miimally in order to save for this trip, and we’ve been planning it since May and it’s going to take all the time until April when the payments are due, almost a year, just to save up the money for this. We will really need that vacation, and the convention is an important thing to go to. We’re foregoing a lot of things to save for this, including furniture for the apartment, favourite foods, lesser trips, and even traveling around our area save by bus, which we can get a $15 pass for a month, which we need for school anyway, so we might as well use it to get around.

Looking for community resources for developmentally disabled teens in Cincinnati OH area.?

MO and CA have “regional centers” that act as coordination point for services and funding. I’m looking for the equivalent in Cincinnati area. Also looking for organizations that provide services such as respite, summer camps, day camps, residential placements and any other contacts that will help.

Disabled. Good beach to vacate for 2days and 1night in Southern CA.?

I use powered wheelchair and I want to take a vacation to a beach with beautiful scenery in So. Cal. As you know, a wheelchair cannot travel on sands, so I need to visit a beach that allows me to travel and enjoy views.

I live near Fullerton, the home of CSU: Fullerton. I want to visit a beach and check into a good hotel nearby for a night and return to home the next day. Three of my family will go with me.

Please be specific with details and/or inform me with good website to search for hotels and to reserve it, and to search for beaches nearby.

My mom is semi disabled. I live out of town and my brother wont help me care for her.. Does this seam fair 2 U?

My mom lives alone and needs help with certain things, and recently had surgery, so she is limited on what she can & can’t do. So, I have been running her errands, cleaning her house, etc.. While doing all these things for my own home as well… I work in the town where she lives, but I don’t live there..I live about 45 minutes away. My brother lives about 25 minutes further out. He has come see our mom twice( in one month ) Last week he was on vacation and didn’t tell my mom, he didn’t even tell his ex wife that he was on vacation because he was afraid that she would ask him to keep their child for more time than he wants to. I asked him to come see our mom on one of those days, but he told me not to make his plans for him. I want to ask him to come help and take turns doing things with and for her.. Don’t get me wrong, I love my mom and we are close, but running two house holds has taken it’s toll and I would like at least one day of reprieve.
Am I asking to much for him to come and help? He acts like his time is too precious.. Yet, get this … He made it a point to call her when he got news that she was making a will and argued that he is ENTITLED to half of everything she leaves behind, and that I better not count on getting her home. That is the LAST thing on my mind right now.. My husband and I already own a home. I don’t think of her items in that way. yet I don’t think he deserves them either, but this is not what I wanted to talk about directly. How can he be so selfish? And self absorbed

Crushing on someone *somewhat* disabled?

Hey. So I’m on vacation right now and there is this guy about my age who comes to the pool every evening.
The first day I noticed him was the day before yesterday. He sits with his shirt on and shorts on and dangles his feet in the hot tub and watches the rest of the kids swim. He doesn’t even go near the water. Yesterday I was swimming with my sister and and I have bad eyesight so I asked my sister who he was looking at and she said he was watching me swim. I think that he wants to join in but I think something is wrong with him?
He has bags under his eyes and he walks with a big limp. That’s all I can tell is wrong with him. And also he has no friends. He hangs out with his dad and his dads friend. He doesn’t even swim with his 10 year old brother.
I’ve never heard him talk b4 and I think I might like him.
Does anyone know what might be wrong or how I make a move? I’m only on vacation for a week and a half more.

Thanks
Ps. Please don’t judge me about “liking crippled kids”. I’m not even sure if I like him yet and I’m one of those people who see everyone as an equal no matter what condition. I’m willing to see past disabilities because it’s stupid not to. They’re just like us.