Any one good at writing emails to HR? Here’s my situation..?

Ok Back story is:

I work at a large medical office and the site manager is my direct manager. I am a registration secretary and there are about six of us working directly under her, the rest have doctors or department heads to turn to. The manager has been in this building for about two years she worked for the same practice prior to that just in a differnet building. I have worked here for a year and a half. In that time there have been two other people who worked under her that got pregnant, needless to say they are no longer here. The first one she continualy harrassed and called into the office about things like wearing to much perfume (no office policy regarding perfume) parking in a handicapped spot (the spot was not handicapped) and wrote her up continueoulsy for taking time off (she had a doctors note) this woman went to HR but they said there was nothingthey could do and so the woman quite. The second woman woman worked beside me and I watched her get called in to the managers office daily and get repremanded for everything from being 4 minutes late (morning sickness in the parking lot) to not smiling enough, she even called her in the office and said “I didnt get you pregnant, so why wont you smile when I go downstairs” then called me in the office to tell me she said it. One day she came down and whipped a box of gloves on our desk and it hit the woman and she was so stressed she got rushed to the ER that same day. She went on Intermittant FMLA and our manager even harrased her about that calling her in everytime and saying she needed notes (not required under FMLA) and telling her all kinds of things wernt covered under the FMLA (that were) This woman stuck it out and at the end of her maternity leave she was two days late coming back (the manager never discussed maternity leave with her, she said she wasnt getting involved) because her doctor was on vacation and she needed certain papers signed. Well the manager said “I have a bussiness to run so I have to let you go” She then called her continuously for the next few days asking for a letter of resignation, the woman refused and when they got to the unemployment hearing the HR lady said we never fired you, we wouldnt fire some one for that, and well you should have quite if the situation was that bad. There still in a appeal process.

So here I am, I am not my bosses favorite by any means (my son has bad Asthma and I am on intermittant FMLA for that) she hates anybody that calls out excpecially for your children, pets on the otherhand thats fine!, so I just found out I’m pregnant (to be honest once my maternity leaves over I probably wont be back) but I want to stay working through my pregnancy because the $$$ will pay off any debts and get us ready for the baby. Is there any advise on how I should handle this situation with my boss?

I wasnt planning on even telling my manager until much further along probably when I start showing, , But I got morning sickness, bad headaches, and I’m exhauseted, plus peeing every three minutes (I had no symptoms with my son) so some coworkers are catching on and I’m assuming it will start getting around very fast as things do here, and very soon I will be called into her office and asked so I dont know what I should do to beat her at her own game before she starts

So now My issues start:

have had all the symptoms there are and do to previous LEEP procedures my cervix is a bit thinner than usual, there were no complications with my son but still after telling my doctor about my managers previous history she dicided it would be best for me to ease through this pregnancy and has filled out the intermittant FMLA paperwork, which my manager is freaking about. Because this mean when ever I am in need I can take a day off. Well now the office call ins have begun….

I emailed HR last week to say i had a doc apt and after my doc saw me she planned to fill out FMLA paperwork but I needed to take the day off and actually see her so I wasnt sure if I should put FMLA on the time off request or not because I had no earned time due to my sons approved intermittant FMLA sor his asthma. I told HR i did not want my manager to know yet the was pregnant for fear the stress that may be caused and this would increase my symptoms. HR never responded back!

So I just put in a slip on friday for monday stating pending FMLA, my manager asked me about three times on friday why I was taking another FMLA and I kept simply saying for medical reasons.

So I was out on monday, and Tuesday I was getting tests done so I was also out. I called on Tuesday and left a message on her cell phone (she has never answered my calls) and on her works voicemail. (normal protocol) I was under the impression that my OB was going to be faxing over the paper work to HR after they filled it out.

Wednesday I was walking around the second floor to get my water bottle filled and over heard manager and one of her spyes commenting o

A bunch of random questions…(a lot of questions)?

What kind of seeds do seedless watermelons come from?
Do stairs go up or down?
When people say, “Im so tired it’s not even funny” or “my head hurts so much it’s not even funny”, why would it even be funny in the first place?
Why is there a top line on lined paper if we never use it?
Do coffins have lifetime guarantees?
Why do the numbers on phones go down while the numbers on calculators go up?
If Hooters were to become a door-to-door service would they have to change
their name to Knockers?
If the sky is the limit, then what is space, over the limit?
Are children who act in rated ‘R’ movies allowed to see them?
Can you make a candle out of your earwax?
When French people swear do they say pardon my English?
Aren’t the ‘good things that come to those who wait’ just the leftovers from the people that got there first?
If the swat team breaks down your door do they have to replace it later?
Can a fire truck park in the fire lane?
Can it be cloudy and foggy at the same time?
“Cute as a button” Is that supposed to be a compliment? Since when are buttons cute?
Can you breathe out of your nose and mouth at the same time?
Are marbles made of marble?
Why does the last piece of ice always stick to the bottom of the cup?
If you pay for a vacation and your plane crashes on the way there, do you get you money back? (Granted you lived)
Why did Yankee Doodle name the feather in his hat Macaroni?
Who was the first person to look at a cow and say, “I think I’ll squeeze these dangly things here and drink what comes out”?
Who was the first person to say, “See that chicken over there … I’m gonna eat the first thing that comes out if its butt”?
Isn’t Disney World just a people trap operated by a mouse?
If electricity comes from electrons, does morality come from morons?
Do illiterate people get the full effect of Alphabet soup?
Can you get cornered in a round room?
Why don’t the hairs on your arms get split ends?
If an atheist has to go to court, do they make him swear on the Bible?
Why is it illegal to park in a handicapped parking space but its ok to use a handicapped toilet?
In that song, she’ll be coming around the mountain, who is she?
How come we say ‘It’s colder than hell outside’ when isn’t it realistically always colder than hell since hell is supposed to be fire and brimstone?
Why is it that if something says, “do not eat” on the packaging it becomes extra tempting to eat?
Why are people so scared of mice, yet we all love Mickey Mouse?
Wouldn’t it be smart to make the sticky stuff on envelopes taste like chocolate?
Why are the commercials for cable companies on cable but not on regular television? Don’t they want the people without cable to buy the cable?
“Have you ever noticed that if you rearranged the letters in mother in law, they come out to Woman Hitler?”
Isn’t it funny how the word ‘politics’ is made up of the words ‘poli’ meaning ‘many’ in Latin, and ‘tics’ as in ‘bloodsucking creatures?
Why is it that when things get wet they get darker, even though water is clear??
Why is it that when you get out of a swimming pool, your urine is hotter when you use the restroom?
Can mute people burp?
What happens if you put this side up face down while popping microwave popcorn?
Why is chopsticks one of the easiest songs to play on the piano, but the hardest thing to eat with?
How come you play at a recital, but recite at a play?
If a fork were made of gold would it still be considered silverware?
If heat rises, then shouldn’t hell be cold?
Why is there that little space inside strawberries, as if it was meant for a pit, and then the seeds are on the outside?
Why isn’t chocolate considered a vegetable, if chocolate comes from cocoa beans, and all beans are a vegetable?
Do they have girls bathrooms in gay bars?
Why is toilet bowl cleaning liquid only blue?
Why is it when we talk to God we are praying, but when God talks to us we are put into the loony bin?
Why do you go back and forth to town if you really must go forth before you go back?
Why doos shaped macaroni taste better than the normal kind?
Why is vanilla ice cream white when vanilla extract is brown?
Why can’t you get a tan on your palms?
If your sick for one week and on one of those days they had to cancel school because of snow, do you have to make up that day in June?
Why do dogs sniff other dogs bottoms to say hello, why dont they just bark in their face or something?
Why do companies offer you “free gifts?” Since when has a gift NOT been free?
If something “goes without saying,” why do people still say it?
You know the expression, “Don’t quit your day job?” Well what do you say to people that work nights?

A bunch of random questions…(a lot of questions)?

What kind of seeds do seedless watermelons come from?
Do stairs go up or down?
When people say, “Im so tired it’s not even funny” or “my head hurts so much it’s not even funny”, why would it even be funny in the first place?
Why is there a top line on lined paper if we never use it?
Do coffins have lifetime guarantees?
Why do the numbers on phones go down while the numbers on calculators go up?
If Hooters were to become a door-to-door service would they have to change
their name to Knockers?
If the sky is the limit, then what is space, over the limit?
Are children who act in rated ‘R’ movies allowed to see them?
Can you make a candle out of your earwax?
When French people swear do they say pardon my English?
Aren’t the ‘good things that come to those who wait’ just the leftovers from the people that got there first?
If the swat team breaks down your door do they have to replace it later?
Can a fire truck park in the fire lane?
Can it be cloudy and foggy at the same time?
“Cute as a button” Is that supposed to be a compliment? Since when are buttons cute?
Can you breathe out of your nose and mouth at the same time?
Are marbles made of marble?
Why does the last piece of ice always stick to the bottom of the cup?
If you pay for a vacation and your plane crashes on the way there, do you get you money back? (Granted you lived)
Why did Yankee Doodle name the feather in his hat Macaroni?
Who was the first person to look at a cow and say, “I think I’ll squeeze these dangly things here and drink what comes out”?
Who was the first person to say, “See that chicken over there … I’m gonna eat the first thing that comes out if its butt”?
Isn’t Disney World just a people trap operated by a mouse?
If electricity comes from electrons, does morality come from morons?
Do illiterate people get the full effect of Alphabet soup?
Can you get cornered in a round room?
Why don’t the hairs on your arms get split ends?
If an atheist has to go to court, do they make him swear on the Bible?
Why is it illegal to park in a handicapped parking space but its ok to use a handicapped toilet?
In that song, she’ll be coming around the mountain, who is she?
How come we say ‘It’s colder than hell outside’ when isn’t it realistically always colder than hell since hell is supposed to be fire and brimstone?
Why is it that if something says, “do not eat” on the packaging it becomes extra tempting to eat?
Why are people so scared of mice, yet we all love Mickey Mouse?
Wouldn’t it be smart to make the sticky stuff on envelopes taste like chocolate?
Why are the commercials for cable companies on cable but not on regular television? Don’t they want the people without cable to buy the cable?
“Have you ever noticed that if you rearranged the letters in mother in law, they come out to Woman Hitler?”
Isn’t it funny how the word ‘politics’ is made up of the words ‘poli’ meaning ‘many’ in Latin, and ‘tics’ as in ‘bloodsucking creatures?
Why is it that when things get wet they get darker, even though water is clear??
Why is it that when you get out of a swimming pool, your urine is hotter when you use the restroom?
Can mute people burp?
What happens if you put this side up face down while popping microwave popcorn?
Why is chopsticks one of the easiest songs to play on the piano, but the hardest thing to eat with?
How come you play at a recital, but recite at a play?
If a fork were made of gold would it still be considered silverware?
If heat rises, then shouldn’t hell be cold?
Why is there that little space inside strawberries, as if it was meant for a pit, and then the seeds are on the outside?
Why isn’t chocolate considered a vegetable, if chocolate comes from cocoa beans, and all beans are a vegetable?
Do they have girls bathrooms in gay bars?
Why is toilet bowl cleaning liquid only blue?
Why is it when we talk to God we are praying, but when God talks to us we are put into the loony bin?
Why do you go back and forth to town if you really must go forth before you go back?
Why doos shaped macaroni taste better than the normal kind?
Why is vanilla ice cream white when vanilla extract is brown?
Why can’t you get a tan on your palms?
If your sick for one week and on one of those days they had to cancel school because of snow, do you have to make up that day in June?
Why do dogs sniff other dogs bottoms to say hello, why dont they just bark in their face or something?
Why do companies offer you “free gifts?” Since when has a gift NOT been free?
If something “goes without saying,” why do people still say it?
You know the expression, “Don’t quit your day job?” Well what do you say to people that work nights?

Would you feel uncomfortable taking your dog with you ?

I am going on vacation with some friends. We are staying at their house. There are 5 couple going. I have a handicapped chihuahua that is extremely well behaved and trained. They know that I have to take her every where with me. I don’t have any one to care for her and she is not a bother in any way. Since their dog is unbehaved and potties every where in the house they have assumed that mine will. We have gone on a vacation with them before and they know she is really easy to take places. My dog does not bark at all. Once last time we ate an outside resteraunt and she sat in a chair by the table and never raised he head. I know it is their house and their rules. They knew that she would have to come.
I did ask. If I need to I will stay in my truck at night. No problem there.
The holiday weekend prices for hotels are $250 ! I could understand if they had never been around my dog. But she went last time and was no bother. This time I even have a backpack so that I can put her in it to go hiking.
It just bothered me to have my dog judged by the way theirs acts.
The other thing that gets me is this is a church group with such a crummy attitude.
Bahama moma- You are right.

I did spend a lot of time alone last time. I am not the type to sleep all day and sit at the cabin. I like to hike and fish.
bb326- My dog is highly trained. She can and will qualify soon to be a service dog. She will sit on a baby blanket and not move until told. I am invited many places with my dog because they know she is trained.
They also have dogs.
I really don’t have a problem with taking her or feel bad for taking her. If I have $250 a night for 5 nights I would go to the hotel. I am going to stay an extra night in the hotel when the rates go down.
I am very proud of my dog and know that she is loved by many and welcomed by many.
tsavme- The dog is handicapped. She is going through training to go to the vet hospitals and an elementary reading program for children.
See how exceptional she really is ?
she is very loved but needs special care that I don’t trust some one else with.
I don’t really like some of their snot nosed kids but we tolerate them.
I am going and I am taking my dog. If they don’t like it , I will sleep in the truck outside or try to find a campground.
If they don’t have compassion as a church group then why are they going to church in the first place.

I really dislike…no, I hate my aunt. Is that normal?

So…where do I begin. I seriously HATE that woman. I know its a strong word but I mean all four letters of that word to the fullest. She has a gambling problem and wastes her money then expects my dad to pick up the slack, and he usually does because he pittys her. I don’t. I don’t care if she is out in the street somewhere. When my grandpa was alive she used to abuse him and yell at him constantly until he died. She is the care giver for my disabled aunt whom she treats like sh*t and yells at too, she put her on her income tax so she’s getting money because of her, and then drops her off at my house so she gets the money while we take care of the disabled aunt. She steals the money they government gives to the disabled aunt to go on vacation to DR and then expects my dad to help her when she gets kicked out of her apartment because she can’t pay. She is constantly causing problems at my house because my dad feels he has to take care of this grown 50 something year old woman and she feels entitled to be taken care of. I mean I know she is your sister but shes f*cked up and needs to fend for herself. On top of all that, with all her neediness to my dad she has such a bad attitude to my mom, I would argue that she hates her. My mom did nothing but be kind to her. The job she holds today: MY mom got it for her. I never want to see her again. I don’t care if I were homeless and she was the only place I could go I’d happily sleep on the sidewalk instead. If I needed an organ and it was hers available, I’d rather die. Over the past 25 years of my life I have only a few, maybe 2 – 3 positive memories of her. I’ve tried to stand in her shoes and consider things from her perspective but even when I do there is no reason for her to act that way. Am I being unreasonable?

Children???

My husband is verbally abusive to my daughter and I. He has grabbed my daughter’s (17 years old) ankles and pulled her our of bed and hit walls. We have been married 13 years and over the years he has denied to get counseling or has just laughed it off. Finally I have decided to leave him, but not get a divorce if he seeks help for his anger. My children and I were on vacation in Alabama seeing family. I would go out with some girl friends from highschool. My parents believe I was having an affair, but I wasn’t. My husband called my my parents and threatned to take away my other daughter who is 9 and handicapped. Can he really take her away from me and what other things could he do? If you have any support numbers for women in my position please let me know. All information is valued.